For the Guys
DemonSpawn
Date:
05/12/2004
I would like to clear up some misunderstandings on behalf of what is laughably termed the 'fairer sex'. You see, there is this thing called family which fucks everything up for some people. Family determines to a large extent what you turn out to be like when you grow up, and how you view others. It also plays a large part in one's adult life, because you base your ideas of family on what yours was like. Now, this is a double-edged sword because you get good families and bad families. Your parents can to a large extent fuck you up in every sense of the word, and you may end up passing this experience on to your kids, and fuck them up in turn.
Now this may seem all very obvious and straight-forward. We all know that, you say. However, there is still some lingering trace of arrogance in (mainly) men, that allows them to think that they are justified in committing certain acts, like smacking their wives and kids, getting addicted to crack, putting their career in jeopardy, and blaming it all on the woman, not to mention the familiar story of screwing around... plus other stuff too numerous to go into in detail.
So, just for the record, here are a few of the things men do which they may justify, but which are simply not acceptable if you don't want to fuck your kids' lives up.
This is for BlueFrog, and for all those men with confused ideas of right and wrong..
It is not, under any circumstances, a good idea for you to hit your wife. Or your kids. Your wife has most probably married you out of love. Hitting her is not returning her love, no matter how justified you think you are. It is showing her that you are indeed the asshole that her friends and her mother always said you were. And hitting your kids tells them that it is okay to smack other people around. It is not. No matter how bad they are. Don't get me wrong. I know that kids these days are just horrific. Some of them deserve a good klap around the ear hole at times. But that is because they are kids. They need discipline from parents who are fair and logical. There is a fine line between smacking your kid for calling you a bastard (which you most probably are at times) and laying into a three-year-old for picking flowers.
Now, drugs are great when you are single or childless, because, as adults, we are responsible for everything we do to ourselves. Only we pay if we screw up. Yes, our relatives may suffer the unbearable shame of having a druggie in their midst, but it has no actual physical effects on them, and hopefully they are grown-up enough to realise that it is always a personal choice.
However, when you have kids, there are certain sacrifices you should make out of a sense of responsibility and duty to them. This includes spending most of your time outside of work smoking crack with your stupid, lazy, selfish 'friends'. It also includes selling off your worldly possessions to pay for your habit, instead of buying your kids healthy food, and clothes that fit them, and school shoes, and toys that will keep them stimulated. The choice to smoke crack and having kids are not mutually exclusive. Being highly addictive, you should already know that the moment you drag on that pipe, you are screwing your kids over, for your own selfish asshole self.
And one more thing I would like to make perfectly clear to all of you with (as BlueFrog so eloquently puts it) iron rings from your mothers' apron strings, is this: when things go bad and you realise you have screwed up, be man enough to deal with it yourself. Face up to your actions and say sorry and make it right, and make a special effort not to fuck up again. Please, whatever you do, or don't, please for the love of sex, and everything else that is good in this world, PLEASE don't bring your goddamn mother into the matter so she can take over and start fucking things up even more.
I don't care how close your family is, your family loyalties should lie with your wife and those you have brought into this world, through no fault of their own. Just because you are an idiot, doesn't mean you have to let someone else clean up your messes, especially not your stupid, ignorant, biased and nosey goddamn mother. It's none of her concern, so keep it that way.
Finally, there is a point I would like to make on the subject of family influences and the real world. Unless your mother kept you in a cellar your entire life, and let you out to knock some chick over the head and drag her back by the hair, there is no excuse for being an irresponsible selfish fucker. There are so many people in this world who have not had perfect childhoods. But among them you will find people that know what is right and wrong, and who do the right thing, not because they are selling out, but because they have kids. And they realise that what you do to your kids today, is what they will do to their kids in the future. So I don't care whether your daddy expected too much of you, or your mommy never gave you marmalade sarmies for school, it's no excuse. Every day, every second, everything you do will affect those to whom you have a duty. Every choice you make will ultimately form a child which is either stable and happy, or insecure, traumatised and basically screwed-up. Each time you raise your hand to hit your wife, you either lower it because you know it's wrong, or you let fly because you have justified the action in some way, because you know it's wrong. Life is hard and nasty and cruel and unfair, but just because you had a bad day at work doesn't give you the excuse to be weak and lazy and stupid.
So put that in your pipe and smoke it, assholes.
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